How to ignite and sustain Spiritual Balanced Life? ~Naimish Harpal 🙏🏻😇
(10-15mins short reading). 4thJuly, 2020
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A flower bloomed in our home garden. What a beautiful flower! Once was a seed, now have turned into colorful miracle of nature’s beauty. I’m watching this flower every now and then from my house window. As I more observe this flower, now I see insects and birds flying around my garden more frequently. With such unity between plant world and animal kingdom, you can say this affection as Law of attraction or Law of survival. With this observation, I asked myself following questions: Why flowers bloom? What does it do uniquely to attract everyone’s attention? We can explore answers in either scientific way or religious way.
Through scientific way, Darvin’s law of survival, each species on this planet has to feed itself to stay alive. Sunshine, air, water, soil nutritions, big fish eats smaller ones — are the ingredients to keep us alive. Everything boils down to chemistry and it’s reaction.
From religion point of view, we can say flowers are God’s creation. Its fresh smell gives heaven experience and so on.
Both views are valid. The point here is that the flower doesn’t care how I think about it. The flower just blooms for its own purposes. In today’s human world, our lives are shaped by external influences. News, books, family, friends, movies, TV shows, work, music, advertisements, radio, religion, lighting, social media, weather, government, stars-planets, traveling, business, school, shopping, food choices, clothes, surroundings, wall color, pets, … are such external forces that shape our emotions, thoughts and decisions. With so many influential factors, we have somewhere lost our inner charm. We nowadays talk about work-life balance, stress or anxiety management, emotion suppression, health issues etc. All these is natural reaction when we don’t live naturally.
To overcome external influence, first of all, we must need to acknowledge them in our daily lives. Do a habit check — “How much time do you spend with your loved ones? How much your decision is influenced by external advertisements?”. After a while with such subconscious listening of yourself, you will notice your external influencers and then you ask following question to yourself: “What matters the most in your life?”. This question will help you to find your authenticity. Your answer will vary from people you love the most -to- your passion for work-hobby-art etc. While answering this question, you will be able to find your truthfulness and your own meaning for living life. Instead of associating our trueness to people or physical world, think about underline emotions or experiences. For example, no matter for whom you have passion for or have love/worship feelings for particular human being or physical objects, answer in terms of followings: do everything with pure love, have lots of passion, giving honest efforts, never ever give up, help others unconditionally, be energetic all the time, live with integrity, not to cheat in any circumstances, keep smiling, be joyful, be neutral, do things confidently or fearlessly, appreciation for life, live in moment, fight for truth, stand and lead for justice, … Such states will determine your uniqueness, your own authenticity.
Now sit back and observe both the external influences and internal fire in your daily lifestyle. There is nothing wrong with external influences but I am asking here to take a balanced approach. Validate your recent decisions in your personal and professional lives with such balanced approach of connecting external and internal world. Once you find this subconscious bias throughout the day, your quality of decisions and therefore life experience will change dramatically. All your actions and/or reactions will then be motivated heavily by your authenticity. You will realize that you can influence too.
Going back to blooming flower phenomenon of the nature world, find your authenticity with living in current blissful moment and grow everyday with more meaningful life. Stay subconsciously aware of your emotions and surroundings. Keep in mind that you are not your emotions or experiences. They are the tools to experience daily life style. Doing things with unconditional love and strong passion to improve our and surrounding lives — will drive and lead ourselves with authenticity.
Would you say this act as igniting our spiritual behavior? May be or may be not. If you believe that there is meaning behind everything in our life and everything is connected to everything else, then yes. To live balanced and authentic life, you should connect to everything spiritually, mentally, and physically but should try not to attach to anything. Just like we care about our bank balance, think in terms of energy level as currency of our life. As money helps us to trade things in economic market, our energy level helps us to trade our experience in our life. Keep your energy untouched by external influences. You can either avoid external influences (like monks or religious leaders) by living life with tons of sacrifices or live life with neutral state of mind. Two minutes of bad influence or harsh dialogue should not ruin your rest of the day moments. When making choice, take balanced approach as suggested below:
(a) Lethargic vs. Workaholic— Be Grounded. 🛐
- If you do what you love or do whatever for your loved ones, you will never get exhausted. You will always find motivation to act and love more.
- At the same time, be thankful that you had opportunity to serve others and become grounded that our life’s are fragile and we live on this earth for short period of time. Use your time wisely.
(b) Apathetic vs. Over-active — Be Creative. 🧠
- We became human from monkeys due to our curious nature behavior. Step outside from your comfort zone and be creative to explore new experiences. This makes us human. Creativity mindset will give you satisfaction feelings.
(c) Stagnant vs. Anxious— Be Confident. 💪🏼
- Procrastination is the fundamental cause for stress build up. Delaying or avoiding important tasks puts us in vulnerable spots. For your dream work, break it down your tasks into small chunks and act on it one thing at a time.
- When exploring new paths, we obviously become fearful. But there is a difference between taking calculated risks and being stupid. Only with defeating our own fear, we can concur the external world. Confident is attractive and contagious.
(d) Unfeeling vs. Clingy — Be Compassionate. ☮️
- Learn about emotional intelligence. There are four types of personalities, known as DiSC profile: Dominent, Influence, Supportive and Conscientiousness. Be self aware of your own personality type and practice how to deal with different personalities in our daily encounters.
- When you care for everyone and love unconditionally, kindness will born automatically.
(e) Suppressed vs. Outburst— Be Communicative. 🎙
- Emotions are like inflated balloons. With body hormones, emotions are born every minute. You can try to hide/leak them or explode them. Instead of showing your anger, talk about reason for your madness. If you like someone’s smile, acknowledge and appreciate them.
- In our family and workplace, we must create an environment where our closed ones can talk openly and share feelings without any shyness.
(f) Over analyzing vs. Lack of psychic boundaries— Be Intuitive. 🔮
- Our decisions determine quality of our lives. Practice how to make decisions with intuition. Be consistent and persistent in your acts. It leads to formation of trust with one another. Such trust feelings helps to be more intuitive.
(g) Skeptical vs. Ungrounded— Be Connected. ⛓
- With wide variety of daily good or bad experiences to our lives, we develop our belief system. Many times, we avoid or detach from few people or objects that are unpleasant to us. Instead of swinging around, learn to be connected. We can only bloom if we remain blissful.
In summary, we need to realize that we can observe influencing sources from our surroundings, counter attack them with our authenticity and turn that spirit to bloom blissfully to attract others with purity. Once you realize and master the act of balancing approach: stay (a) grounded, (b) creative, (c) confident, (d) compassionate, (e) communicative, (f) intuitive, and (g) connected, you will upgrade your life experience. All it takes is to enable continuous subconscious awareness between our external & internal influences. Do periodic introspection of your inner world and pick a balanced path.
Thank you for your attention while reading this article. Hoping that I have ignited spiritual fire in your soul. I recognize that everyone is fighting their own battles in either external world for themselves or for their loved ones for their good wealth and health or fighting battle within yourself to unstuck from current situation. So, I am spreading prayers and warm wishes to your fighting spirit. Remember that you can win the battle with organized army and it is relatively much easier to defeat opponents but it’s very hard to win someone’s heart. It requires self purity and sacrifice. So, choose your battle carefully. I would prefer winning hearts every single time.
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🏋🏻♂️ No reading is powerful without follow up actions, so I am leaving endnotes here with some practical todo homework:
(1) When you wake up every morning, give a big smile to yourself. You are alive and therefore everything is possible. Appreciate your and your loved ones lives. Decide that how you wanna spend your energy level throughout the day.
(2) Do a quick self awareness check — how much have you been influenced by reading this article? Match your new learning from your own belief system and adjust accordingly.
(3) Donate your time for sustainable energy. Our Mother Earth needs help to heal. No aliens or lord gonna come and rescue us. We have to act now. Avoid single-time plastic usage. Reduce your clutter and garbage. Plant trees and flowers.
Give your honest effort and bloom like flowers whatever you do in your life. I wanna see your scars. As always, actions will set you free. Not only have a good time, but “Create” good times! Build and use your authenticity to make a positive impact in your lives. Amen.
Very Best,
Naimish Harpal 😇🙏🏻
